Okay, so technically I didn’t fail…not entirely. Every failure is truly a stepping stone towards success but I had to share this with you because there is so much freedom in this I cannot wait for you to experience it with me. Seriously, I’m smiling here because I know after you read this post you are going to feel amazing, light and at peace with yourself in one big area in your life.
Failure, defeat, that feeling that you didn’t do it. It wasn’t accomplished…no check mark next to the “these are your life goals” box. You tried to climb the mountain and the mountain kicked your ass on the way down. That’s right, the F word, the big Fail. And guess what? That is beyond normal…in fact it is so normal you can actually get to a place in your life when you can laugh, smile, and NOT beat yourself up about failure. Want to know how I used to feel about failure though? An overwhelming feeling of embarrassment, utter disappointment, a strong desire to never ever try anything again…have you ever felt that way?
We’ve got a golden opportunity here. Get this…I know why I failed in my other businesses (photography and Network Marketing) or more specifically, why they did not lead to where I wanted them to go. It wasn’t because I wasn’t good at them. It wasn’t because I didn’t have the skills to do the work. I’m super good with people, organized, able to solve problems, technically capable…like seriously, I had the juice to be able to rock those businesses but want to know the missing piece…the one element that if it was present in those businesses would have been the deal breaker?
Alignment. 100%. Even though I did them well and even though I felt passionate about them and could really see myself doing something great with both industries they just didn’t line up with me. This is the thing. There are some people who absolutely are achieve minded focused which in this post means, they set a goal and no matter what (even if they don’t even like the company, their boss, the environment) they smash their goals. They see the prize and go after it. Turns out…I’m not one of those people…lol.
And want to know what’s even funnier? Because I did not have that skill set I would beat myself up and call myself lazy. I would compare myself to those that had entirely different skill sets than I did and instead of tapping into what I was amazing at I decided I was a failure. How crazy is that? I’m actually the opposite of lazy, more like an energizer bunny when I am in alignment. Maybe you’ve had a similar story play through your head at one point or another?
Listen, for me…if I’m going to go all out in something, if I’m really going to put myself out there and be willing to fail, be willing to look silly, be willing to be overly-happy and have people wonder if it’s normal to be like that…I have learned through trying out a variety of different things that I thought I was passionate about, that if it doesn’t speak to my soul, than for me, I just won’t do it. Remember how I said this would be freeing? Here it is…
You might be in a place right now where you know that you want something more. You know that you have a bigger calling in your life than what you are currently doing and you might have even created something really cool, something that you are passionate about but instead of feeling fuelled by that, you are feeling defeated. It just doesn’t feel right and instead of it pouring out of you from a reservoir of inspiration and purpose it feels a little dry. Have you thought about whether or not you are truly in alignment with it? Key questions.
- Do I know what my true message is? And if so, am I creating from that space?
- Am I happy with what I am doing? Is there joy and excitement for the next steps or am I hesitating, procrastinating, just not feeling it?
- Is this my life’s mission?
Take some time today and get out a pen and paper and write the answers out. If it’s time to change directions that is awesome. Like a breath of fresh air right? Just because you have always done something doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it. There are no rules around this stuff guys, just decisions. Walking away from something that doesn’t line up with what speaks to your soul, that doesn’t stir up that fire inside of you, that is in not in alignment with your true message is totally okay. It doesn’t mean you failed, it just means you decided to change your course.
There’s a saying out there that goes, “You can only fail if you quit.” And yep, that’s true. But changing course for what brings you to life isn’t quitting. All you’re doing is embarking on a new journey. I’m grateful for my past businesses and I actually still have a hand in them. Residual income is always a smart thing to tap in to. All of it is an incredible learning opportunity. Don’t buy into the hype and stay true to your message. You are all sorts of epicness.